Five Ways You Can Start Believing in Yourself
Let’s face it. We all face those times in our lives when we struggle with self-confidence. Sometimes this may last for only a day or two. Other times, unfortunately, this struggle can last for much longer. If you find yourself struggling with your self-esteem, now is the time to believe in yourself. There are several ways you can do this.
Focus on Your Good Qualities
No matter how much people get down on themselves, everyone has good qualities. While you can just think about them in your head, listing them can help you better see your good qualities. Even if you start with something as simple as that you can whistle really well or that you are good at finding bargains at discount stores, list your good qualities. If you are struggling to recognize good qualities, enlist the help of your family and friends. You may want to make this an ongoing thing, where you add to your list as you think of more things.
Look at What You Have Achieved
Often, people get down on themselves based upon what they have not achieved. Instead of focusing on what you think you should have accomplished, focus on the things that you have achieved, particularly obstacles you have overcome. Make a list of all the difficult things you have achieved or overcome. This will be different for each person. If it was hard, and you overcame it, include it on your list.
For some people, graduating from college (or even high school) is a big accomplishment. For others, not panicking when they got stuck in rush hour traffic in Chicago would be one of their biggest accomplishments. Even talking to your cute coworker or going a month without drinking any carbonated beverages could be something to celebrate for some people. As you create this list, you will realize that you can do difficult things.
Achieve a Difficult Goal
Once you have realized that you can do difficult times, it is time to achieve a difficult goal, especially if it’s been a while since you did something hard. The key to this is that you need to set a goal that is achievable while also being challenging. If the goal is not a challenge, it likely will not make you feel better about yourself. If the goal is too difficult, you will get discouraged. Find that balance. The good news is that you can adjust your goal if you set one that is a little too easy.
Look for Those Who Bring Positivity
When you are around people a lot, their attitudes will rub off on you. Avoid spending time with people who are always negative, especially those who work to make you feel bad about yourself. It is especially important to avoid people who are emotionally abusive. These people thrive on making sure you feel inferior to them. As you surround yourself instead with people who radiate positivity, you will likely start to feel more positive yourself.
At times, we all play the comparison game. It’s easy to feel bad about ourselves when we begin comparing ourselves to our family and friends. You feel like you aren’t as successful as your high school best friend because she has an amazing job. You feel like you aren’t as smart as your younger sister because she recently completed her Ph.D. from Harvard. You become convinced that you will never be as great of a mother as that lady at your church who has ten kids and finds time to volunteer in all their classrooms.
With the invention of social media, it has become even harder to avoid comparing yourself to others. Unfortunately, this comparison has had a negative effect on people’s self-esteems. While it is not always easy, when you begin comparing yourself to others, stop. Instead, focus on remembering your good qualities and all the great things you have achieved. To avoid comparing yourself to others, you may need to take a break from social media or at least limit your time on it.
These are just a few of the ways that you can believe in yourself and achieve a higher self-esteem. One of the biggest keys is to work to stay positive, even when positivity is difficult.