Visualization to Actualization: How to Write Your Success Story

Many of us feel that we can never reach our goals. We have a hard time dealing with performance anxiety or even social anxiety. We are intimidated by the success of others and by our own seeming inadequacies. And as a result, we become all too well acquainted with a feeling of defeat. The truth, however, is that the battle is often lost in our minds – long before we actually “fail” outwardly. This, believe it or not, is something that we can change.

Visualization is a very powerful tool in helping us reach our goals. Instead of setting yourself up for failure, gently guide yourself toward the biggest success story of your life by envisioning your success beforehand. Instead of filling your mind with negative thoughts that will only make you doubt yourself more, allow yourself some positive and healthy motivation. Below are five tips to help you learn the skill of visualization.

1. Identify exactly what you want your success to be. One of the greatest steps toward success is figuring out what success means to each of us. You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want. So you need to identify what would make you feel successful. What is it exactly that you are trying to attain? A stunning musical or theatrical performance? A strong, healthy body? A positive response to a job interview? You need to have a specific event in mind and a specific outcome that you want.

2. Envision what your success will look like. Now it is time to start actually writing the story. What would your life be like if you succeeded? This is the place where your imagination can go wild. Let yourself see those enormous muscles flexing. Let yourself hear the audience bursting into applause. Let yourself feel the joy and excitement that you will feel upon reaching your goal. Visualize how things will play out when you succeed.

3. Be specific. Don’t let your visualization stay on a general level. Instead, get into all the nitty-gritty details. It’s okay to imagine specific conversations, facial expressions, or even touches. Give your mind a particular context and a location in which to create your success. Take time to imagine every step of the way – the planning, the preparation, and the outcome.

4. Write down your success. Next comes the step that many people shy away from – but is absolutely crucial! It is time to get your success out of your mind and begin making it a part of reality. You can express your success in any way you feel most powerful. It is probably simplest just to write it down. But if you prefer to draw or even act it out, go for it. Either way, let your success become something tangible that you can read or see or feel.

5. Constantly focus your mind on the positive. You have laid a great foundation for actualizing your goal. Now you just need to keep your eye on the prize and press forward! Let the positive thoughts and feelings surround you as you visualize your success and motivate you as you work toward your goal. You need to be strict with your mind and leave no room for negative or demeaning thoughts. Instead, fill your mind with encouraging thoughts and never lose sight of how it looked and felt when you visualized your success.

Much of what we can or cannot do is based on what our minds tell us. If you mentally tear yourself down before any situation, you will be most likely to fail. However, by building a success story even before the event, you set yourself up for victory! And victory is what Open Eye Wellness is all about!

Icelandic Study Reveals Eating Fish Can Prevent Cancer

No one can eat fish like they do in Iceland. As an island culture, fish comes in an abundance of species including delicious cod, haddock, monkfish, herring, skate, and salmon. They prepare this bounty of fish in a large variety of ways, the most traditional being the saltfiskur (salt fish) while the most commonly seen are bags of dried fish-jerky. What may not have occured to anyone is that Icelandic people eat a lot more fish than people from landlocked and even coastal mainland regions. A recent study on this unique and beautiful island found that eating a large amount of fish in your youth can significantly decrease your chances of breast cancer, and a study before that suggested that prostate cancer is also much lower in frequent fish-eaters. This interesting revelation adds just one more reason why it’s great to live in Iceland, and why fish is good for you.

Breast Cancer and Fish

Fish consumption in the US is prevalent, but it’s not overwhelming. Unless they have a favorite fish-dish, most people eat fish more like once or twice a month than several times a week. Breast cancer hits about 1 in 8 women according to This comes out to about 12% of all women at some point over the course of their lifetimes, and can range from benign to life-taking. Still just within the bounds of the US, about forty thousand women are expected to die of breast cancer during 2017. Men aren’t safe either, though their risk is much lower at about one in a thousand. With odds like these, it’s no wonder that scientists around the world are looking for ways to lower the risk of the most common kind of cancer in women. When taking histories of women with and without breast cancer, a recent study in Iceland revealed that women who ate more fatty fish as teenagers had an overall lower chance of contracting breast cancer in their later years. This study looked at a similar topic and concluded that fish oil has an inverse association with breast cancer rates.

Prostate Cancer and Fish

Prostate cancer is like the mirror-cancer to women’s breast cancer, as it is the most common cancer type among men and also tends to strike later in life. It has a similar strike-rate, as according to about 12% of all men are diagnosed with it at some point in their lifetimes. Prostate cancer is the third leading cause of cancer death in men, and it’s been estimated that 26,000 men will die in 2017. Cancer as a whole is a terrifying prospect and for men who want to increase their chance to stay out of that 12%, there are constant studies about how to decrease your exposure to carcinogens. This mostly creates a huge list of things not to eat or do, but what about fun things to eat that help you avoid cancer instead? While eating fatty fish as teenagers may help women dodge breast cancer, this study suggests that men who consume fish oil in their later years can seriously decrease their chances for prostate cancer.

Foods and Cancer in General

With cancer being such a big issue, there have been thousands of studies on what does and does not increase your chances of growing rebellious tumors. Unfortunately for everyone, most of the really good stuff is on the ‘bad’ list and we all choose when and where to take our chances. Carcinogenic (cancer-causing) foods and drinks include:

  • Alcoholic Anything – The first bummer.
  • Processed Meats – This includes bacon, sausage, hot dogs, pepperoni, beef jerky, and prosciutto. Really anything that’s been preserved, cured, or salted.
  • Grilled Foods – That delicious char is made of cancer, sorry.
  • Red Meats – All red meats, including lamb, horse, and goat.
  • Hot Beverages – Anything even approaching body temperature.
  • Coffee – Even if you drink it cold.

With all these amazing and delicious foods “off the table” for a cancer-free life, we begin to see a picture in which cancer is probably inevitable. After all, even Shaolin monks don’t drink their tea cold if they can help it. When it comes to reducing your cancer risks, you may be better off seeking foods that help you, rather than trying to avoid every food that’s been associated with cancer. Other than delicious fatty fish, these helpful foods include:

  • Garlic – Can actually reduce tumor growth, better fresh than powdered.
  • Broccoli – Better raw, but definitely don’t microwave.
  • Brazil Nuts – High in selenium, and can also help after you have cancer
  • Citrus – Good for anything it touches, from your skin to your stomach lining.
  • Saurkraut – The fermentation process is the key.
  • Mushrooms – Healthy in a lot of ways and especially for breast and prostate cancer.

Fortunately, these are only a few of your anti-cancer options. Some are strange, many are delicious, and almost all of them are healthy. The unwritten rule that a healthy lifestyle helps you fight cancer is true, but you should still do your homework because the way you prepare these foods also has a fairly large effect on their cancer-fighting effects and grilling them with char, for instance, makes the point moot by adding carcinogens to your anti-cancer meal.

Like most diets, the Icelandic selection of fishy dishes runs the gambit from healthy to carcinogenic. While their favorite saltfiskur falls under the ‘anything cured’ rule, there are dozens of other recipes which do not. Fresh fish boiled, grilled (but not charred), and even fried can be chock full of the fatty fish oils that help fight breast and prostate cancer, so remember whether you’re vacationing in Iceland or shopping at home, eat more fish. No doubt the clever Icelandic scientists who did the research are doing so.

Getting Motivated to Overcome Fear and Anxiety

The only way to overcome daily fear and anxiety is to prove your fears wrong. For most people who suffer from anxiety, it’s because they have an overcharged sense of danger when faced with everyday situations. The human mind is constantly running ‘risk vs reward’ assessments to decide what is worth doing and what is better left undone, but this is based on experience! When you’ve succeeded at something, you are more likely to see new opportunities for that activity as rewarding instead of risky. Therefore, if you want to conquer a fear of public speaking, you should start by telling your friends a few jokes There are dozens of ways to overcome your fear and anxiety, and you can start right away. Here are a few easy methods to build your confidence and help you leave that fear behind.

1. Wear Exciting Socks

If you’re afraid of looking silly at work, try wearing decorative and exciting socks. With most business attire, the socks are mostly invisible, but you’ll know they’re there. By daring yourself to this one act of of defying conformity, you have done critical damage to your wall of internal anxiety. During the first day of rebellious sock wearing, you may find yourself worrying if anyone will see and admonish the socks, but chances are the first person to notice will laugh and think it’s cool. Make exciting socks your thing and, if you want to, start adding to your unique look with other small business-acceptable details. A decorative belt buckle, cufflinks, or jewelry are also fun but understated ways to show a little flare. This may sound like sheer vanity, but when you spend time defining your style and people respond positively to it, it breaks down your anxiety about being accepted as yourself.

2. Change Your Hair

It doesn’t have to be much, you don’t have to cut it, but do something new with your hair. Depending on the length and your normal style, you can part it on the other side, pull it up or leave it down, gel it into a new shape or braid it in an unusual way. While doing this, think about the person you want to be. Like the Star Trek alter-ego goatee, turn the new hairstyle into a representation of your inner brave self, then go out into the world knowing that you’re trying something new today. Even if confidence feels a little unfamiliar, the only way to be confident is to take confident actions. People who don’t know you will have no idea that this style is new to you, and you can show them your best side, building positive feedback for your risk vs reward assessments. Depending on how subtle your change was, friends and family may ask you if there’s anything different about you today or exclaim with delight at your new style and this too will build your confidence further by providing positive reinforcement for your new bold approach.

3. Play a Game

Sometimes anxiety can come from obsessively thinking about what could go wrong in any situation. Especially for people with overactive and worry-prone thoughts, it can be useful to distract yourself while trying to do things that typically make you nervous. A great way to do this is to play a game with yourself during the day that will keep your mind a little bit occupied. Try deciding each morning to count all the things you see of a particular color, or a particular kind of object, like all yellow things or every pencil. Looking for these objects will take up the part of your brain that’s usually looking for things to worry about. If it helps, give yourself points for every item you see and try not to count the same item twice in a row.

4. Dare Yourself

It’s a well-known fact that some people are highly motivated by dares, and you could be one of them! Even if you normally struggle with fear and anxiety, you might still be susceptible to the double-dog dare. The next time you’re about to psych yourself out of doing something, dare yourself. Really sit yourself down (in your mind) and tell yourself not back down from things you really want. Whether it’s jumping into a pool in your clothes or just going out for dinner with a few co-workers after a shared shift, daring yourself can be a surprisingly effective tactic. Just hold yourself to your own standards of bravery and you’ll naturally find yourself being braver and leaving those anxious thoughts behind.

There’s no need to suffer one more day under the control of your fear and anxiety. Make the change today by choosing to do something daring. With one brave act at a time, you’ll soon find that you’ve stopped being fearful and have become the person you’ve always wanted to be: a confident you.

How to Get Started Running On Your Own

We all know that exercise in an important part of staying healthy and happy with our bodies but it’s hard to get started. There are dozens of forms of exercise to choose from and they will all be difficult at first. Some people play a sport, other people mimic workout tapes and a very large number of people choose to go running. If you don’t need a new friend group, don’t want to worry about membership fees, and enjoy spending time alone looking at the local scenery, running is the perfect exercise activity. You may have even always wanted to be a runner but it was always a little to hard to work it into your routine or condition yourself so that it isn’t a total pain. The good news is that it’s never too late to get started. Becoming a runner is a lot easier than you might think, all it requires is the willingness to commit and soon the joy of running will be your motivation.

If you’re ready to become one of those lanky, healthy people who runs every morning and could probably survive the zombie apocalypse, you don’t need a personal trainer. You don’t even need expensive equipment or an app that tells you when to run but it also won’t’ happen over night. Prepare for a few weeks of conditioning and slowly getting your run times up above a few minutes per stretch. Here’s how to get started:

Warm Up in the Mornings

The first step to a strong running habit is to wake up with the right mentality. Even if you don’t go running right away, warm up with more than just coffee and a shower. Do a few lunges and start getting your body ready for a lifestyle of activity. Stretch out in your jammies and jog in place for a few minutes to get your blood pumping. As you get into it, make sure to work up a bit of a sweat before your morning shower each day. This will not only make you more ready to work out, it will also get your brain functioning better for the day’s tasks ahead of you.

Condition with Long Walks

If you haven’t been running in the last few months, your body isn’t conditioned to long amounts of time spent moving you around on your legs and you shouldn’t expect it to be. Instead of simply taking off and finding yourself exhausted a few streets later, start with power walks to condition your body to long-term ambulation. Take long strides that stretch out your calves and try to walk an extra five to ten minutes every day until you get up to about an hour of fast walking. Don’t be surprised if at various stages your feet, hips, knees, or legs start to ache. Do your best to walk it out as this is a sign that your body is adapting to your new performance demands.

Start with Short, Easy Runs

Now that your legs know that you mean business, start to work running time into your schedule but don’t expect to go far on your first jaunt. Start with jogging or a slow, easy loping pace and expect to get out of breath fairly quickly. If you’re out for a while, give yourself plenty of walking breaks and don’t be afraid to go back inside when you’re tired. Runners don’t start being good at the 50-yard dash, they get that way through practice. Keep your first few runs short and lengthen them as you feel your strength and stamina growing. This way you are less likely to hurt yourself by over-stressing your legs before you’re conditioned for longer runs.

Build a Running Schedule

If you have trouble finding the time or motivation to go out and run, building yourself an actual running schedule is how a lot of the pros do it. If you have time in the morning, run between your warm-ups and your shower. If there’s a shower at your work, possibly in the gym, you might be able to grab a run to and from your favorite lunch spot. As for evening running, your best bet is either between work and dinner or an hour or two after dinner when your stomach has settled. By setting a schedule

Enjoy Stretching Everywhere

As you build new muscles in your legs and core from all that running, you may not realize but it’s important to stretch all day long. This will ensure that your muscles stay flexible and ready to run again soon. Stretching not only feels great, it also keeps you limber and thinking about running. At your desk, you can roll your chair back slightly and stretch your feet out, alternating between pointing and flexing your toes. You can do lunges in the break room and even in the middle of a conversation you can stand on your tip-toes slowly pushing up and dropping to work your calves during the day.

Running is a wonderful way to stay in shape, get your daily exercise, and transport yourself quickly from place to place.  Whether you’re aiming for marathons or just enjoy the feeling of wind in your face, it’s never too late to start running on a regular basis. Through scheduling, practice, and plenty of stretching you should be running circles around your friends in no time.

Believe In Yourself: Five Things to Tell Yourself When You Really Want to Quit

Getting healthy and staying healthy can be a struggle. Believe us, we know. It takes diligence, commitment, and downright hard work to maintain a routine that will keep us at an optimum level of wellness. And that’s not easy. There have been many times in our journey when we have just wanted throw everything down in despair and walk away. But here at Open Eye Wellness, there are no quitters! We know that the things we tell ourselves make a huge differences in our lives. We can either discourage ourselves or energize ourselves for what is coming next – the choice is ours! These five statements will help you get back in the game and keep on pushing, even when you are feeling down.

1. “Just start!” These two simple words can do more for us that we know. Far too often, our struggle is just starting to do what we know we need to do. You may want to identify a specific goal that you know you need to reach, but have been avoiding because it is not easy. And tell yourself that you have been sitting back and doing nothing for too long. It’s time to go out of your comfort zone and just start. In the end, you will find the positive results overwhelming!

2. “No grit, no pearl.” You are going through some tough stuff. But always remember, you are gaining something because of it. It is going to take some pain to get what you want, but in the end, it is completely worth it. Sure, you could sit back and do nothing – it seems like the easy way out. But eventually, you will have to look back and see that you have lost something important. And you will regret it forever. So grit your teeth and dig for the treasure! Quitters get nothing. But fighters get the gold.

3. “I can. And I will.” You are your own worst enemy and your own best friend. Instead of badmouthing yourself to yourself, let yourself know that you can do it. And what is more, you will do it. Who cares if there are obstacles in your way? They aren’t stronger than you are. You can overcome whatever lies in your path. It won’t be comfortable. But you know that if you push yourself, you can touch the sky. Get up, get going, and watch yourself triumph.

4. “I will learn from my mistakes.” Everyone hates making mistakes. They make us feel uncomfortable and bad about ourselves. But we view mistakes as one step in the process of success, not a setback. Each and every mistake shows us what we can do better. If we view mistakes correctly, they can help us and not hurt us. Prove that you are not a quitter by learning from your mistakes instead of despairing because of them.

5. “I will inspire other people.”  We don’t always remember that the people around us are fighting battles, too. Sometimes all they need is someone to tell them, “I know. I’ve been there. And I have proved that it’s possible to push through!” Our life experiences allow us to offer comfort and support to those around us. Who knows where they are in their journey, and what you have to say might be exactly what they need. Other people will be inspired by your victories and will look to you to as their role model.

Life is tough, but so are you! We know that you can do it!

For more information about Open Eye Wellness, make sure to contact us! We would love to hear about your journey toward happiness and wellness.

Overcoming Depression: Four Beat-the-Blues Basics

Depression strikes, and we are left with the aftermath of something not even totally understood by science. Sadness, feelings of defeat and loneliness are symptoms of depression – an illness that afflicts many millions of Americans. We know that a lot of people suffer with these feelings that drag us down. No matter how bad it gets, there is always hope; at rock bottom there is nowhere to go but up. Although you may have been through the ringer or are suffering in silence, remember to be gentle with yourself. Coax yourself up and out of that funk, and you will find there are many ways to combat depression. Here are four beat-the-blues basics to help shake depression.

Let’s get physical

Exercise, ugh! Maintaining an active lifestyle can be a challenge. Even if working out is the last thing we want to do, it’s important for our mental and physical health. Numerous studies link physical movement with improved mood, and feelings of happiness and inner peace. Try to exercise 30 minutes a day and see the difference. Exercise can be fun, you just have to find what is right for you. Professional boxers train extensively day after day, but if jumping rope and pugilism aren’t right for you, you can try more gentle exercise such as stretching, dance, or water aerobics. Literally anything that gets your body moving, even just walking, is good for you. Get off your butt and stomp out that depression!

Herbal Healing

Oatstraw infusions, St. John’s Wort, and Garden Sage are examples of herbs that help with depression. The wide offerings of Mother Nature have been used for thousands of years to cure illnesses and ailments, and science finds cures for diseases in green plants from the earth. When working with plants it is important to form a kinship with the spirit of the plant. It sounds silly; commune with the plant in your mind and ask its permission to use its healing power. You may find that decorating your home with plants will improve your mood as well, among other benefits. Make sure when taking a new herb or infusion that you properly research its properties and tendencies with your condition. Always make sure too that you are not combining medications that could react adversely with one another.

A Beautiful Mindfulness

Meditation, Tai Chi, or yoga all strive to reconnect ourselves with the energy within us and around us. Find a practice that stimulates your soul. The silence in these activities saturates your being with a certain magic – one free of stress and encumberment. If you have kids, you are sure to appreciate silence in addition to its spiritual meaning. Tai Chi and yoga combine physical movement with mindfulness. The mind is deeply connected to the body, and we see the benefits of mindful practices over time and exponentially so. Take time each day to quiet your mind or practice any tool that brings you back into your body, in the present moment, and enjoying being alive.

Let’s do lunch

Diet and nutrition play a vital role in health and our emotional state. Cutting out processed foods, soda pop, and excessive sugars can help your brain function better. Avocados are great for depression, as are nuts, fish, fruits and vegetables, and foods high in fiber. Whole grains, beans, seafood, and lean meats have also shown a correlation between consumption and improved depression. The food you eat fuels your body so it is important to cut out junk food whenever possible. There are many ways to prepare these foods to be totally delicious so don’t be afraid to branch out of your comfort zone. Feed your body with nutritious and healthy food to combat depression from the start.


Educating ourselves on how to fight depression actually tops the list. Armed with knowledge and information you can go forward and make meaningful changes in your life. Diet and exercise, mindfulness, and herbal medicine are all helpful tips for beating the blues. Lady Day (Billie Holiday) sings the blues:

“I sit in my chair and filled with despair, there’s no one could be so sad. With gloom everywhere, I sit and I stare, I know that I’ll soon go mad.”  [(In my) Solitude, 1952]

We may feel desperate at times, like there is no hope. Keep your head up. Educate yourself and take baby steps. Try to shift your depression and transform negativity into positive thinking. You got this!

4 Ways to Use Lemon For Naturally Healthier Skin

Lemons are amazing. They’re beautiful in a fruit bowl, delicious in everything and have a scene that just won’t quit. The human desire to flavor everything from pie to chicken with lemon is a good instinct. Lemons are great for you, and not just to eat. Lemons are great for your skin, too. Applying even a little bit of freshly squeezed lemon juice to your skin, with or without other ingredients, can start showing results immediately including healing acne (without popping), fading scars, and softening.

There are dozens of ways to use lemon in ways that help clear, lighten, and energize your skin. You want to cut a fresh lemon to get the most natural combination of antioxidants, citric acid, and vitamin C. The rich natural combination of citrus can work wonders without a single additive, just dab a little on your hands and face, then watch the difference as your skin clears and tightens.

Here are a few luxurious and natural ways to use lemon for amazingly healthy skin:

Lemon and Tea Tree Oil Cleanser

Lemon makes a fantastic facial cleanser because of the citric acid and antibacterial properties. These come together to clear out your pores and kill any bacteria that might be causing blemishes and damaging your complexion. The citric acid tightens the skin encourages your pores to stay closed and cleansed when you’re done. Apply the cleanser with a cloth or cotton ball in the morning and evening, then rinse with warm water. Do not store longer than 1 week per batch. To make, combine:

  • 1/2 cup warm water
  • 2 tablespoons lemon juice
  • A few drops of tea tree oil
  • Optional: 1 tablespoon witch hazel

Lemon, Honey, and Yogurt Face Mask

Facial masks are a great way to infuse your face with delicious natural ingredients, locking in moisturizer and softening wrinkles. With a lemon mask, your skin will tighten and energize as you let the solution rest on your face and take a few moments to close your eyes or read an e-book. Thoroughly blend the ingredients and apply a thick layer to your face. If you have the time and space, the treatment is equally beneficial for your neck, shoulders, and chest as well, all areas that are prone to blemishes that could use a little extra love. Let the mask sit for 15 – 20 minutes, then rinse thoroughly with warm water.

  • 1 tablespoon plain yogurt
  • 1 teaspoon honey
  • 1 teaspoon fresh lemon juice
  • Optional: 1 pinch of turmeric

Lemon and Olive Nail Strengthener

Nail health is an important part of your complete regime. If your nails have been showing signs of dryness, cracking, or yellowing, lemon is a solution to that, too! These symptoms can be caused by aging, overexposure to hot water or cleaning chemicals, and sometimes from too many manicures. Whatever the reason, a long soak in a lemony oil mixture is sure to do the trick. To give your nails the best chance, remove all polish and treatments, then mix a tablespoon of lemon with two tablespoons of olive oil. Soaking for about 10 minutes a day should start to reveal results. It can help to clean your nails gently with a nail brush beforehand.

Lemon, Almond and Shea Butter Lotion

The best way to use lemon is to leave it on your skin for a long time. This enhances its lightening and energizing qualities, but can be a little sticky if done with pure lemon juice. By mixing a delicious lemon lotion, you can have all the benefits of daily lemon and moisturizer use. To make the lotion, melt shea butter and coconut oil in a saucepan, then mix in a few drops of almond oil and tablespoons of lemon then set to cool. When the oil begins to solidify, whip until it becomes creamy then pour into a clean glass jar. Put it on in the morning after cleansing, at night before bed, and carry some in a small jar as a wonderful smelling face and hand cream.

These are only a few basic recipes, but lemon is just as healthy when used as simple freshly squeezed juice. Don’t be shy about creating your own lemon treatment recipes, you have a special understanding of your skin’s health and different ingredients and ratios may be more or less enjoyable or effective. If you do come up with an awesome new concoction, share it so others with skin like yours can learn from your experience.

Small Visualization Techniques Which Lead to Big Results

Nowadays, most people who are looking to improve their lives have heard of the concept of visualization. However, most of us still have doubts about whether something so simple can actually work. By just thinking about, focusing on and visualizing the things that you want, can you attain them?

And then, consider the fact that sometimes, it’s actually quite difficult to pull up the images you want in your mind. The mind doesn’t necessarily want to move in the direction that you want it to move in. You might want to focus on the car that you want to buy but your mind starts thinking about whether you’ve turned off the stove or what you’re going to say to so-and-so when you meet them or what you should wear for your date that evening.

So how do you turn your mind towards the things that you want it to focus on? Here are a few tips:

Vision Boards

One great way to focus on the things you want is by using vision boards. This technique involves taking a board and putting pictures of what you want on it using thumb tacks. Then put the board in a place where you’ll see it every day.

This way, you don’t have to force your mind to think about the things that you want. They’ll just be in front of you.

You can make a collage of several things you would like to have in your life on your vision board. Decorate it with shiny stars and ribbons. Make it something you like to look at. Visualization should never be a chore or else it won’t work.

Paintings and Photos

Another great way to visualize is by putting up paintings and photos of things that you want in your home. Try to think of a way in which the paintings fit into the décor as well as represent what you’re looking for.

  • Many people put up happy photos of themselves with their families. They may not realize it but these are visualizations of a happy family life.
  • If you’re trying to attract a relationship into your life, try putting up paintings that speak to you of romance.
  • Even something simple like a still-life of fruits can help you in your aim to eat healthy and lose weight.


Many of us decorate our homes to the best of our ability but we forget to do the same with our workspaces. Consider the fact that your workspace is where you spend the majority of your day. Then pick and choose the items with which you want to decorate it.

Many people only have cubicles. So their space is limited. Try to infuse this space with as much meaning as you can. Each piece that you use should speak to you of one of your aims.

If you want to make it as an artist, put up a miniature print. If you want to be a writer, keep copies of your favorite books. If you’ve published a few things, you can cut them out and frame them. Even if you’ve received some compliments along with your rejection letters, you can cut these out and put them where they’ll be visible.

The idea is to surround yourself with positive energy as much as you can.

Clothes and Accessories

Another great way to visualize is to wear clothes and accessories which remind you of your aim. Many people will tell you that you should dress for the job you want, not the job you have. This is one great way of constantly reminding yourself what you’re aiming for.

  • Wear suits if you want to move up the corporate ladder.
  • Dress like an artist if you want to be one.
  • To attract a relationship, wear all your great date-night clothes even if you’re just going to the mall or for a movie.

Even making just one of the above adjustments at home, at work or in your wardrobe can lead into powerful visualizations which will help you to achieve what you want.

Motivation Goals: Live A Life Fulfilled, Take Chances

In the midst of disasters, political angst and mindless celebrity gossip, stories surface of those who live extraordinary lives. Some involve famous individuals, such as Oprah Winfrey, J.K. Rowling and Laurene Powell Jobs who live fabulous lives and accomplish rare feats while helping others do so because their wealth allows it.

Other anecdotes recount ordinary individuals, such as those featured annually in CNN Heroes, who work quietly against the odds. They prove that it is not only possible to do what you want to improve the world, but to do it with courage and ingenuity .

These exceptional people represent the few who stand for something beyond themselves. What motivates them every day and make them different from the majority?

  • They cope with failure differently: They expect failure sometimes, no matter how hard they work at something they love. And they learn from each failure and fix what does not work. And they never give up looking for new and better ways to try again.
  • They start with a full day: Not necessarily a packed or crowded calendar, but they live busy yet balanced lives. They take time for themselves, they are flexible, but spend most of their time accomplishing their goals because it is what they want and need to do.
  • They give with no expectation of a return: What they do for others is given freely, with no payback expected or wanted. Whether they give money, time, knowledge or materials, it comes from the heart and they consider the act of giving a vital part of life.
  • They take chances: Along with a high risk of failure comes the need to challenge themselves to think, act and work differently from what they know, or others expect. They expect ridicule and criticism from others and embrace it as a sign that someone is paying attention to their actions.
  • They laugh at life: They are serious people involved in crucial endeavors, but they still find life funny. And they laugh at themselves, too, because they don’t think of themselves as extraordinary. They tell dirty jokes and bad puns and find hilarity in everyday situations.
  • They don’t judge: They listen to all sides of a discussion, and while they express an opinion, they don’t judge any individual based on their opinion or thought. They accept different viewpoints as normal, appreciate them as part of humanity’s fabric and move on.
  • They don’t procrastinate: They have their list, and they finish that list every day, with or without outside assistance. Whether mundane or monumental, they don’t run and hide from life’s tough tasks.
  • They appear poised, confident and strong: Regardless of inner fear and doubt, the face they present to the world is fearless. They understand the power of positive thinking.
  • They know it’s not about money: They know even the poorest people can do extraordinary things. Mother Teresa lived a life of poverty and personal sacrifice and touched millions of people with her words and works of kindness.
  • They guard their health as their greatest wealth: While they love their work, their mental, spiritual and physical health comes first. Without a healthy life and mindset for themselves, nothing else matters and little else works.
  • They understand the value of money: They know what it buys and they know how to save, invest and use it for good. They don’t deny themselves, but they don’t buy based on the latest fashion or fad.
  • They reach out to others for help: They form friendships, mentoring relationships and professional alliances and use them to advance their careers and causes, discuss and solve work issues and provide resources, educational materials and seminars.

The Law of Attraction in Quantum Physics & Reverse Causality

The ceremony was beautiful. The clouds above threatened to rain in the private garden courtyard decorated with flowers in pale pink, burgundy red, and shades of green. Rain on your wedding day is good luck, they say, but the few drops held off as the couple wed in marriage. Reading much of the script in English and Spanish, the bride and the groom accepted each other into their dear families, and pledged their ever-living and eternal love for one another. It was heartfelt, touching, and clearly special.

The law of attraction states, in layman’s terms, that energy is like a magnet that attracts other similar energy; in essence making the manifestation of all your dreams possible. By re-framing thoughts, practicing mindfulness, and focusing your mind on the success of your goals, this energy you put out into the universe comes back. Reverse causality, a quantum physics concept, suggests grand theories about the space-time continuum. To illustrate the law of attraction and reverse causality further the narrative example of the wedding story will be continued.

Have you ever encountered a situation in life that seems to be a coincidence but begs you the question: could this all be a part of something grander? Something predestined and divine that your instincts say these things happened for a reason? You are not alone. Here is a concrete and enthralling example of reverse causality in the form of a quote of the bride’s father. Mr. Rosenberg, upon making his speech at his youngest daughter’s wedding:

‘First, I want to thank you all for being here for this wonderful and absolutely joyous occasion. Some of you have traveled from a far ways to be here with us and we appreciate it. Today we have a chance to join our families with the marriage of our daughter Rachel and our new son Edgar Diaz.

What you do know is that Edgar’s family is from Ecuador. We were actually live-streaming the ceremony for the family that could not be here today for them to witness from home. What you probably don’t know is that I have always had an unexplainable fascination with Ecuador. There is actually a term in quantum physics called Reverse Causality, and it draws connections between past and future events, somewhere along the way transporting information across the space-time continuum that makes these things more than coincidences.

I did a big report on Ecuador in high school, and at the time thought my inclination was just another piece of me that didn’t mean much. But here I stand today, joining my family with another wonderful family from Ecuador that has been so kind and generous and accepting. We could not be happier with the Diaz family and give our best wishes to the bride and groom…’

The concept of reverse causality begs us to redefine our sense of time. You will encounter times in life where you are drawn to certain energy forces over and over, good or bad, and it begs us to analyze the patterns we see in our lives. Could is just be coincidence that a life-long affinity for a place, object, or action presents itself to us over and over? Just like the blood and work of our long gone ancestors flows in our veins forward in time with prior generations affecting the heredity and inclinations of future generations, could future events affect events in the past, like suggested by reverse causality? This calls into the question of fate.

The law of attraction states that we are all able to attract energy into our lives with the power of our minds by practicing awareness, introspection, and altering our thoughts to manifest a better life. The bride’s father would never have known that his future daughter would join their family with an Ecuadorian one, but it all still seems to fit into a neat little puzzle: a hodgepodge or collage of all the little pieces that add up to create the whole of our lives. Whether we believe there is a connection between the two or not, we all sense when a coincidence is actually meant to be.

To use the law of attraction to your favor take care of the basics of health, including your mind-body connection. Remaining positive and full of hope will always draw forces of caring and kindness to you. Any working plan or goal starts with an intention. Focus on what it is you want in life, then look for ways to obtain them. Positive thinking, re-framing negative thoughts, and living in the moment in a mindful way will all attract the best energy to you. Whether you believe in fate or not, physical laws state that energy flows, and energy attracts other energy. Be mindful of what you attract by focusing on your dreams and goals, the rest will all fall into place.